tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post8948874684448204771..comments2023-10-19T04:08:43.776-07:00Comments on Infertility Expat...a journey: Spoke too soon..China Dollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03462824778269002060noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-19381270978378639462011-03-17T05:59:00.900-07:002011-03-17T05:59:00.900-07:00Hmmm...a mundane sandwich eh? My friend had dresse...Hmmm...a mundane sandwich eh? My friend had dressed hers in the perils of morning sickness, it was tinged with guilt, more about the public announcement (group email...she's an expat too)...in a sort of 'i am happy and lucky but it's not all rosy' sort of way. Certainly not the worst announcement I've found over breakfast.luckymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732992049669516052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-71904224180065116492011-03-16T23:38:22.240-07:002011-03-16T23:38:22.240-07:00Thanks everyone.. so glad you all understand and t...Thanks everyone.. so glad you all understand and that I'm not a complete bitch/crazy/just plain mean.<br /><br />Luckyme.. like the way you responded to the pregnancy announcement - honest but friendly. I did email my friend briefly. I couldn't bring myself to write a chatty email with all my (infertility) news - she announced her pregnancy inbetween telling me about her DIY projects and her Dad's retirement... like it would hurt less if it was sandwiched by mundane news! xxChina Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03462824778269002060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-21372482713964569742011-03-16T16:29:33.309-07:002011-03-16T16:29:33.309-07:00Poor you...and after your party with the phone cal...Poor you...and after your party with the phone call and another pregnancy announcement, it sounds really difficult. I agree once the treatment starts it feels as though you finally have a chance, a little control is passed your way and a pregnancy is possible at last. The end of one journey and the beginning of the next stage. I had mixed feelings too and I actually think it does matter how one 'get there', no one would choose the IVF route over quick and easy (and free).<br />Hang in there, enjoy your flap jacks!<br />I have just responded to a pregnancy announcement (distant friend) with 'wow...what exciting and happy news for you both...you must be so excited and understandably nervous blah blah). I just cannot type the words 'I'm happy for you'. Sad but true. Somewhere inside I am but I can't find it today.luckymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732992049669516052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-6002227693708451102011-03-15T16:38:59.287-07:002011-03-15T16:38:59.287-07:00I'm glad your friend was sensitive, but yah, I...I'm glad your friend was sensitive, but yah, I get not wanting to send that email. It all feels so false when you say "I'm so happy for you" sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-4960970121726091762011-03-15T16:20:26.706-07:002011-03-15T16:20:26.706-07:00I'm so sorry that you are going through this. ...I'm so sorry that you are going through this. You probably are greiving a little and that's okay. It has happened to me before every IVF...no matter what we were trying or how well things had been planned out. You just got hit with a lot at the same time...and it is no wonder that you are having a good cry. Just remember that the feeling will pass. And all of your bloggy friends will be here for you when you come out the other side of this thing.Princess Wahna Bea Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13525236950612612052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-41992193335142537412011-03-15T06:07:05.283-07:002011-03-15T06:07:05.283-07:00I'm so sorry. I remember that feeling so vivid...I'm so sorry. I remember that feeling so vividly. In fact, I'm ashamed to admit that the friend that emailed me that she was 5 months pregnant right before I started IVF STILL hasn't really been properly congratulated, almost four years later. It's just hard, and you need to be kind to yourself.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02747382929049494704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-9659176562005471982011-03-15T04:48:28.912-07:002011-03-15T04:48:28.912-07:00I'm glad you feel a little better. It's re...I'm glad you feel a little better. It's really overwhelming at times. I recognize what you write about, I'm at the same place, hanging on to that last hope.<br />So chocolate is alright, interesting. I might need some myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-84850331013503353102011-03-15T02:05:50.644-07:002011-03-15T02:05:50.644-07:00Thanks everyone.. I'm feeling a bit better now...Thanks everyone.. I'm feeling a bit better now after baking some flapjacks (the UK kind!) for my bloke and some awesome gluten-free chewy chocolate, nut & raisin cookies for me :)<br />I'm supposed to be going to boot camp tonight but, right now, the cookies are looking like a more appealing option (plus Dr F said chocolate is allowed at this time of the month... it's very yin, apparently) xxChina Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03462824778269002060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-80956463740185278042011-03-14T23:05:09.055-07:002011-03-14T23:05:09.055-07:00You are so not alone. Those days of the never endi...You are so not alone. Those days of the never ending tears just suck. I am so sorry you woke to one of those kinds of days. I feel you with your heart breaking over the last 'hope' of doing with without IVF. And yep writing those emails to people are the worst, having to say things that you don't feel at all... Hoping for BRIGHTER days ahead for you.nicarvhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11194555208681792744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-7836927338262914022011-03-14T21:32:29.387-07:002011-03-14T21:32:29.387-07:00I felt devastated when my last period arrived in J...I felt devastated when my last period arrived in January that signalled having to start IVF - I so desperately wanted for it to happen without IVF - but now that I'm through the other side of the retrieval and transfer, I marvel at how amazing this process is (even if the medications and procedures are pretty average) and that I wouldn't be doing this if I didn't love my future child so much already - b/c this is the only thing left that will increase my chances. Not to minimise that pain that you're going through but to reassure you that having been where you are today, I can honestly say that going through all this really makes you feel as though you're doing something that will increase your chances of obtaining you final dream. Awful that you got an email about your friend's pregnancy on such a difficult day and I'm sure she'd understand what you're going through after trying for a while herself - so there's no hurry on the reply. Looking after yourself at the moment is the most important thing xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-29159554399549383332011-03-14T21:00:47.969-07:002011-03-14T21:00:47.969-07:00I actually had quite a few friends struggle with i...I actually had quite a few friends struggle with infertility or loss around the time it all hit for me. It was devastating each time one of them got to announce their happy news - yes, ALL of them got pregnant (most of them naturally) and had take-home babies fairly quickly while I waited in misery for years. Just when I was certain I'd NEVER get pregnant again, it happened. Still terrified of how it will turn out, but the point is it really CAN happen for you and IVF may be just the thing. Hoping your own happy announcement is just around the corner!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316978989809741699noreply@blogger.com