tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post3237218237680794619..comments2023-10-19T04:08:43.776-07:00Comments on Infertility Expat...a journey: What should I do?!China Dollhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03462824778269002060noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-56257262571773127292011-03-09T17:32:19.666-08:002011-03-09T17:32:19.666-08:00Thanks everyone.. Of course, I know I should have ...Thanks everyone.. Of course, I know I should have just answered the phone or called her back straight away but I just froze. She isn't a friend - I've only met her about 3 times, I haven't seen or spoken to her in 2 years so it just took me by surprise. <br />Now I'm in a hole because it seems too late to call her! How could I explain that I waited 3 days after getting her missed call?! I know it's not the right thing to do but I might go for the ostrich approach and just do nothing - if I see her on Saturday I could pretend my phone was playing up and I didn't know it was her call... I know it's not the best option but I think I've backed myself into a corner. Oops!China Dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03462824778269002060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-18477607221792458082011-03-09T15:44:18.963-08:002011-03-09T15:44:18.963-08:00I would agree with the others. It SUCKS more than ...I would agree with the others. It SUCKS more than anything to have someone tell you they are pregnant, and then go on and on about how wonderful it is. We all know it. But maybe there is actually a reason she is calling. So if you can find the strength, try to give her a call and just see what's up. You can always make up an excuse and have to get off the phone if it doesn't go the way you want. Good luck!!!<br />~ A~ Allihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01351643160505444108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-9047868667984571042011-03-08T20:16:38.476-08:002011-03-08T20:16:38.476-08:00Looks like a unanimous vote - call the woman. I h...Looks like a unanimous vote - call the woman. I hope she doesn't have "great news" to tell you, but if so then it's better to hear over the phone.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316978989809741699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-102611818830708662011-03-08T18:48:23.260-08:002011-03-08T18:48:23.260-08:00Yes, good advice. Get the phone call out of the wa...Yes, good advice. Get the phone call out of the way. You may find she has a predicament that she needs your help with. I often run through potential conversations in my head, assuming people will ask me about TTC but 9/10 they don't. <br /><br />It's good to be prepared though, as the other ladies suggest.<br />Just to say...one problem I found about telling people we are no hurry to TTC is people either gush about how wonderful Motherhood is to try to tempt you or give you negative stories about people who wait to long. I look a little younger than my years (from a distance) but as I'm now 35 I find I can't bring myself to use the 'plenty of time for that' excuse or even to pretend that we are taking a relaxed wait and see approach (last time I heard all the details of someone's IVF cycles and eventual pregnancy and how if there's a problem it's better to know now)...really? shock me?luckymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732992049669516052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-55192002824694290452011-03-08T14:48:22.850-08:002011-03-08T14:48:22.850-08:00I'm with Kate and Cattiz J... probably better ...I'm with Kate and Cattiz J... probably better to speak before Saturday but only say what you feel comfortable with saying xoxoDandelionBreezehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06988561541523178095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-47914233717062448662011-03-08T02:40:35.590-08:002011-03-08T02:40:35.590-08:00Oh, I don't know. But wouldn't it be more ...Oh, I don't know. But wouldn't it be more awkward if you meet without talking first, I mean because she tried to reach you. And I'm with Kate here, you don't need to tell her your story if you don't feel like it. That's private and totally up to you.<br />Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-538917151573217678.post-21757317210834929252011-03-08T01:22:03.373-08:002011-03-08T01:22:03.373-08:00Take your courage in your hands and call her, that...Take your courage in your hands and call her, that way you will be armed with info to make an informed decision about Sat and whether you go - or you come down with a sudden, highly infectious bug - on the telephone no-one can see your face - just have a doorbell or mobile ready to go if things get tricky to get you out of the conversation quickly. Re the ttc question, if she is crass enough to bring it up, just say you both decided that there was plenty of time for all that and you both wanted to enjoy your time in China together - I don't think it would occur to her that you would go down the treatment route out there.<br /><br />She could be asking a really simple question about a good restaurant or something and then you will kick yourself for letting this get the better of you - go into battle, I say - but go armed.<br /><br />xxxxxxxAnna and Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05078063328621678985noreply@blogger.com